As it probably is for most people here, my path in arriving at this forum has been a long one. I actually came across this website some years ago, but I wasn't ready at that time to understand the disobedience problem of the SDA church. I knew something was wrong, but I didn't know what.
Two years ago I sat down to read the church manual. I was shocked at how many rules were being broken. On page 19 of the manual it says:
No attempt should be made to set up standards of membership or to make, or attempt to enforce, rules or regulations for local church operations that are contrary to these decisions adopted by the General Conference in session and that are set forth in this Church Manual.
So I started bringing up the section on discipline in Bible study. Every time I would get attacked in one form or another. Each time, I regrouped for next week prepared to counter the previous attack(s). Eventually they had to start misrepresenting what I said by redefining Biblical words to the same way that the world uses them. Then when I pointed that out, I was immediately back stabbed after class. I was slandered by someone who went to gossip about "how to deal with him (me)", when I had done nothing but defend myself from mischaracterization. The leader they sought counsel from listened, and did not direct them to Matthew 18:15-17. That leader, who bent their ear to gossip, later brought it up to me, during a private discussion on discipline. I was hurt, and immediately told the leader that they have offended me. The excuse given was that they "were trying to help me". That is obviously an idiotic excuse, because then that would be a loophole for open sin.
So I brought in another leader to witness, and was shocked that they agreed with the other leader. So I brought up the topic in a church board meeting. They all voted me down, and I was mocked at times. I spent a year away from church, and not one person visited me to talk about why I wasn't going to church.
I went back recently, because I had boned up on the church manual. I saw that I could bring up issues, by making a movement, at a business meeting. When I found out they hadn't had a business meeting in a year I thought I had them. The church manual says they should have one once a year. But the church board voted against it, and I was once again back stabbed. But this time it was to the entire board.
I found out about their decision and went to most of the leaders to point out the business meeting rule. The response was that the manual is a guideline, or a suggestion. I pointed them to page 18-19 (authority of the manual), and they either made a specious argument, or got agitated and ran away. They denied the clear language in the manual. I have contacted other levels of leadership, and I have either been ignored or given the same old "it's a guideline" excuse.
I will add that they were breaking many other things in the manual concerning adultery, behavior in the sanctuary, and unilateral leadership decisions. In addition to being mocked, back stabbed, and slandered I have been yelled at hysterically, threatened (cops). These things happened with witnesses, and nobody ever came to my defense.
I focus on the manual, because it is the easiest to prove wrongdoing. I decided to start doing some research on lawsuits concerning broken charters, or contracts, and I came across this forum again.

